The Funeral Ceremony


The key part of the preparation for the ceremony is a visit to you, to gain a complete understanding of what you want.  There are no rules.  I will make suggestions that build on what you want and achieve your aims.

The Tribute:  a tribute to the deceased will usually form the centrepiece of the ceremony.  I will help script this, with or without contributions from family or friends.  But in any case I will spend as much time as is needed to make sure I can paint a memorable picture.  Often that involves follow-up calls to people who can’t attend the initial visit but can add important background.

I take great care in writing the script, striving for a balance between due solemnity and, where appropriate, dashes of humour.  I prefer not to circulate the script before the ceremony because, on the day, my words are addressed above all to you, the bereaved.  But I will follow up and check for accuracy or tone when needed.

Music:  more often than not, the deceased will have had some favourite music or performers that prompt particular choices.  The music itself is usually pre-recorded, with some crematoria having an internet-based system with a limitless choice.  Live contributions are captivating.  There is always an organist on hand too.

Readings:  many great writers have thought hard about life and death and produced wonderful words on the subject.  A relative or friend might like to read a poem or some selected prose at an appropriate point in the ceremony.  I will be happy to make some suggestions.

Inclusiveness:  even though the ceremony itself is free from religion, it is fitting on such an occasion to acknowledge those present who have religious beliefs.  I would invite them to remember the deceased in their own way, during a period for reflection.

Based on the comments above, a typical ceremony might look like this:Sunburst_inset

  • Music to enter
  • Welcome and words of comfort
  • A reading
  • The Tribute
  • Music for reflection
  • The Committal and words of farewell
  • Closing words
  • Music to exit

After the ceremony I provide a bound presentation copy of the script, including all contributions from others, for you to keep and read in the months and years to follow.

If you’d like me to help you create a fitting farewell for a loved one, my contact details appear on the right hand side of this page.