In my role as pastoral carer I talk to many people from all walks of life who have experienced great trauma and loss, and who are struggling with fear and uncertainty. At no time has it been more important for us to be able to talk and share our worries; yet at no time has it been more difficult, particularly for those of you with loved ones in hospital. I can be there for you − impartial and empathetic while not being too close.
At present I am offering this service free of charge.
If the worst happens, and your loved one dies, I can also offer that listening ear early on, even if you haven’t decided how to celebrate the life of your loved one − indeed I can help you to make that choice.
You may wish to have a ceremony straight away with a few family members − perhaps streamed online for those who cannot attend in person − or you may prefer a burial (or scattering) of ashes ceremony or a memorial celebration at a later date. The circumstances night be such that you have no celebrant at the crematorium. It is still possible for you to have a simple ceremony yourselves, and there are a few ideas for you on the page ‘Do-it-yourself’ ceremony.
As a celebrant, I can help you by leading any of those ceremonies, to give you ideas about what might be included, and to lead it on the day.
If you have lost a loved one recently there are many support services available. Here are three:
Helping he bereaved to find support − At a loss
Support for adults and children who have been bereaved − Cruse bereavement care
Support for bereaved children − Child bereavement Network
Support for families who lose a child − Together for short lives