As a humanist celebrant, my wedding ceremonies revolve around the couple – around you. The ceremony is a public declaration of your love for one other, and will be all about what matters most to you: your values, commitments, hopes and dreams. It is a chance for you to step out of the routine of everyday life, and to show the people close to you, and in the wider world, that something amazing has happened.
Your humanist wedding will also be about your connection with your wider communities, an opportunity for you to invite family and friends to share your joy and to help you celebrate your future life together.
The ceremonies I lead vary widely from one to the next, but if there is a ‘typical’ wedding, it lasts between 20 and 30 minutes. The content will be up to you, with as much guidance from me as you need and want. Your ceremony might include poetry or extracts from other literature, music, and text written by you, friends or family, or by me. Some couples include symbolic acts: traditional ones like exchanging rings, ring warming and hand fasting, or new ones they create themselves. Often couples ask other people to join in.
Because the ceremony is about you, there are no rules about what has to happen. It can be exactly what you want it to be: dreamy, romantic, light-hearted, fun, adventurous. It can be at any time of day or night, in a special building, outside in gardens, fields and woodlands – even on a mountaintop.