Humanist funeral ceremonies
Humanist funeral ceremonies:
A humanist funeral often takes place in a local crematorium, or at a woodland burial site or in a local cemetery. Some families prefer to have the ceremony at their home or some other suitable venue followed by a brief committal ceremony at the crematorium. Others prefer to have a private cremation, followed by a celebration of the deceased’s life at a memorial ceremony or scattering of ashes.
If you are holding the funeral in a crematorium or cemetery then you will be limited to time and myself or the funeral director can advise you on this.
Funeral ceremonies in a crematorium are usually about 30 minutes long.
This is the usual order of a humanist funeral ceremony but this is flexible and we can discuss the structure at the family meeting:
- Entrance and introductory music
- Welcome words
- Thoughts on life and death
- The Tribute: This is a personal celebration of the life of the person who has died. It can take many forms and include other speakers’ personal stories, readings and poems as well as the script I’ll write after the meeting with family and friends.
- Readings of poetry and prose if you wish – delivered by celebrant or family/friends
- Reflection: a few moments for private thoughts (or prayer) about the person who has died, either in silence or with music. Sometimes mourners light a candle, lay a flower or perform another symbolic gesture of farewell.
- The committal: the formal farewell, when the curtains can be closed or kept open or the coffin is lowered
- Closing words: including thanks on your behalf and information about any arrangements after the ceremony
- Leaving and final music
This structure is a suggestion and can be adapted to meet your wishes. Family and friends can be involved throughout, I can take the whole ceremony or act as a support to those who wish to speak. I will always be available to take over if someone has planned to speak but does not feel able to on the day.
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