Hilary at the crematorium

When someone you love is seriously ill or has died:  

Would you like me to help you to create for them any or all of:

  • a non-religious humanist funeral which is all about the person you love?
  • a scattering or burying of ashes ceremony?
  • a memorial service, which is a personal, unique tribute to them?

All of these ceremonies are designed to help your family and friends remember that person with love and appreciation.

Do you want to include music and readings which remind you of them, and if you are able, to involve family members in saying personal tributes or reading messages from friends?

Is it important to you that the ceremony is carried out in a thoughtful, caring and comforting way, and is appropriate for everyone attending?

Your loved one’s unique non-religious humanist funeral or ashes ceremony or memorial service will truly reflect them, and will be crafted entirely around:

  • What was important in their life?
  • What music and poems are special for this person, to be included in the ceremony?
  • What did they do in their life – family, career, interests, personality, including amusing stories to make us all remember them with love?
  • Who else do you want to involve in delivering a personal tribute or saying a poem in the ceremony (if anyone wishes to do this)?
  • Would you like a minute’s silence for your loved one, or to listen to reflective music, for people to think of their own favourite memories of them?
  • Are there any cultural symbolic acts which you may wish to include in the ceremony, especially when we say goodbye to your loved one?

I am very sorry that you need to organise this funeral ceremony now, and I would like to help you to celebrate the life of the person you love, to create a happy, lasting memory of them. If you wish to hold a memorial ceremony, I can liaise with the speakers, and deliver the ceremony. It can take place at any date and location of your choosing, involving any number of speakers, music, perhaps a video slide show of your loved one’s life, and food and drink that they would have liked!

Also, some people are beginning to wish to plan their own funeral. If this is you, I can sit with you and find out all about your life, and write a script for you to share with your family, so when it is needed, your funeral will be exactly as you wanted.  Please do contact me as below to talk about this.

Or I can help you create a “Celebrate Your Life” This is Your Life style ceremony now, for you to surround yourself with love to overcome any ill health or celebrate a big birthday, at a get-together with your family and friends now, so that you will know how much they love you while you are still here to appreciate it!

Please call me on 01895 632096, email on or click here, to discuss what we need to do next – I cover the Ruislip – Breakspear, Garston – Watford – West Herts, Hanworth – South West Middlesex, Amersham – Chilterns, Kensal Rise – West London, Golders Green, and Slough Crematoriums, Cemeteries in Watford, Rickmansworth, Northwood, Bushey, Gunnersbury, Greenford and Hendon, and memorial services at your choice of venue in London and the South East.

Examples of the many cards and emails I have been honoured to receive after previous funerals:

“Thank you so much for yesterday’s celebration of my “baby” Sister’s life.  The feedback from everyone has been “how very Carol” it was, and delivered by you with warmth.  Your purple suit was perfect! Once again, many, many, thanks.” Trisha

For a great comedian: “Thank you very much, on behalf of all of his family, for the way you handled and conducted the ceremony. We all felt very much represented and considered by your warm and professional manner. I’m glad we managed it as we wanted and hoped it to be, and are pleased at how it all went smoothly and fitted in all our speakers within the time.” David

and: “Thank you so much for such a wonderful send off for my good friend.  I cannot imagine what it was like for you to face that audience – a spectrum of literary and comedy talent in one place! – but you set a beautiful tone and I know that the family were very happy with how you represented their story and how you conducted the ceremony.” Grace

“Hilary, you brought my 111-year-old aunt to life through your warm, sensitive script. It was a pleasure to work with you. The language you used at the very end of the funeral was uplifting in an unsentimental way that Edith would have appreciated. Your presence at the funeral was dignified yet reassuring. Afterwards, I received countless compliments from those who had attended on my choice of celebrant. A hard-of-hearing friend was delighted that, for a change, she could understand every word you spoke.” Vera

Please may I say how wonderful you were, Hilary. My mother had requested a Humanist Funeral and in the circumstances it was most apt, especially as you were such a great orator and gave a frank, informed and at times amusing celebration of the life of my dear mother. I appreciated that you spent three hours with my husband and I, prior to the funeral, finding out as much about Molly as was possible. You collated and presented this information to the funeral party as if you actually knew Molly and had been a part of her life too. Thank you once again Hilary for making the end a comfort and a relief. ” Erica

“Thank you Hilary. The celebration of Jan’s life was beautiful, although so sad. I cannot thank you enough for all you did. Coming to see us so promptly, preparing such a beautiful tribute from my distracted thoughts, coping with all our changes. But most of all thank you for your presence on the day. Several people asked me how long Jan and I had known you, and were amazed to find you had never met Jan – a fitting tribute to all your work.” Graham

“Thank you for helping us to make Phil’s farewell celebration such a positively memorable occasion. It has really helped us to deal with the shock  of his sudden loss and to move forward with his love in our hearts.” Jenny

“Thank you very much for creating the beautiful ceremony for Jay yesterday, which you conducted with such sincerity and feeling. It was a great comfort to the family and friends there, and I know it was exactly as Jay would have wished.” Pam

“We just wanted to pass on our sincere thanks to you for the beautiful ceremony for our Dad last Wednesday. Under your guidance it was very uplifting, full of love and laughter. What could have been a very sad occasion was transformed into a true celebration of his life. Thank you again for your professionalism and compassion.” Lisa and Stuart

“Just wanted to say thank you on behalf of my Dad and my family for conducting the ceremony for my Mum last week. It was the first time that I and many of us have experienced a humanist ceremony, and I found it a beautiful experience, so uplifting and comforting, even through all the sadness it helped so much. We have received so many positive messages about the ceremony, so thank you so much” Janice


PS: I love to help you to hold a beautiful, meaningful and memorable funeral or memorial ceremony in any of our local areas, including: Ruislip, Harrow, Uxbridge, Eastcote, Hillingdon, Greenford, Slough, Windsor, Hayes, Pinner, Northwood, Kenton, Wembley, Rickmansworth, Watford, Bushey, Stanmore, Edgware, Radlett, Borehamwood, Barnet, Finchley, Hampstead, Camden, Kensington, Westminster, Islington, Acton, Ealing, Chiswick, Isleworth, Beaconsfield, High Wycombe, Chorleywood, Chesham, Amersham, Hemel Hempstead, St Albans, Willesden, Sarratt, Golders Green, W3, W4, W5, NW3, NW6, NW4, NW10, Hounslow, Hendon, West London, North London, Kings Langley, Gerrards Cross, Middx, Berks, Bucks, and Herts.