Weddings
A humanist non-religious wedding ceremony is a wonderful way for couples to express honestly and sincerely their feelings for each other, and their hopes and intentions for their future together. Humanist ceremonies can take place anywhere: in a garden, on a beach or in the countryside, in a village hall or community centre, or in a hotel or private home.
My aim is to get the tone just right for you: a touch of humour or realism, romance, sincere aspirations and intentions, deep love and great joy: whatever feelings and hopes you wish to share with those you have chosen to be present. If you wish, everyone can join in, saying a few words in unison. People close to you can read a poem or prose passage, play music, or take some other part in the ceremony.
All I can’t provide is the legal side: for that in England and Wales you have to have a registrar’s ceremony too, which of course can be an enjoyable and important part of the whole occasion.
Humanist weddings can include all or most of the following, usually interspersed with readings and music:
- Words of welcome and introduction
- Something about the bride and groom
- Some words about marriage
- Promises
- Exchange of rings and/or some other ritual eg handfasting
- Signing a certificate
- Some participation by all present
- Closing words and invitation to celebrate
I ask the couple to visit me at my home to introduce ourselves and discuss what kind of ceremony they are thinking of. If they decide to go ahead, I ask for a deposit of £200, then I email them sample scripts and lots of possible ideas for the ceremony. I keep in touch with them by phone or email, and prepare the script with as much input from them as they wish. It is usually finalised at least a week or so before the ceremony. We then usually have a short rehearsal at the venue, which enables people to feel more relaxed on the day. I give the family several copies of the script to keep in presentation folders.
My total fee is £450 – 500.
Do feel free to contact me if you wish to talk about humanist ceremonies.