Weddings and Partnership ceremonies
The most important thing about a Humanist wedding or partnership ceremony is that it is carefully written with the couple concerned so that it is truly personal and relevant to you. Unlike civil weddings Humanist ceremonies can be conducted anywhere. It can be inside a building licensed or not, or outside in a garden, or a favourite beauty spot. If you do choose to hold your ceremony outside you do have to be mindful of the weather, and maybe of the adventurousness of your guests!
Writing your ceremony – how it happens
Step one. We have an initial meeting which usually lasts about 20 to 30 minutes. This is ideally face to face but can be over the telephone if this is not possible. This allows you to consider if I am the person you wish to conduct your ceremony and me to find out some basic information about you and your wishes. I do not charge for this initial meeting.
Step two. If you decide to proceed we then have a more extensive meeting. Some couples have firm ideas about their ceremony but don’t worry if you do not I can provide ideas and examples, including ideas for poetry, readings and music. We can also consider symbolic acts which you may wish to consider such as hand-fasting.
Step three. I then produce a draft of your ceremony which you comment upon, this is usually done via e-mail. If necessary the draft is modified until you are happy with it.
Step four. Rehearsal I strongly recommend a rehearsal of your ceremony this will allow you to assess the requirements of your venue, for example how loudly you will have to speak for your guests to hear your vows.
The legal bits
As Humanist Weddings are not yet recognised as legal in England if you want your marriage or partnership to be legally recognised you will have to have a civil ceremony. Most people choose to have a quiet ceremony before their Humanist Wedding, which is the ceremony in which they make their vows and commitments to each other in front of their families and friends.
Humanist Weddings are legal in Scotland
“I didn’t think it was possible for me to be moved by a wedding ceremony, I’ve heard so many….but I was!” Vicar’s daughter and wedding guest.
“The ceremony was so beautiful… it was about the two of you and I could recognise you from what was being said. That’s so unusual in a wedding!”
Brides sister
“Just a few words of thanks from all the family for making yesterday so special.
The ceremony was wonderful and we are so grateful for all your help in making things run so smoothly.” groom’s mother