Kent and East Sussex have some fantastic locations for outdoor weddings

My wedding, civil partnership and reaffirmation ceremonies are very flexible and can be as simple or elaborate as you wish.

I write a unique script for you which reflects your approach to life and  the promises you want to make. There is no religious content. The focus is on your commitment to each other.

I help you choose readings and poetry, anecdotes, stories and music that is personal and relevant. Live music can be incredibly moving on such occasions. Between us we can decide what is best for you… whether it’s a song everyone can sing, recorded music or a live group. The overall aim is for a meaningful and memorable day that reflects honestly your own views and wishes.

Some couples like to include traditional or cultural elements that are special to them. For instance, I recently conducted a wedding that included a Chinese tea ceremony. Others just want a non-church occasion with traditional elements where they can be declared married! It’s up to you!

6 steps to your wedding ceremony

1. We meet to discuss initial ideas
2. I write the draft script
3. You amend and approve the script
4. The ceremony is rehearsed, preferably at your chosen venue
5. The wedding takes place!
6. You receive a presentation copy of the words.

Fees* are within the recommended BHA guidelines.

*This includes the introductory and planning meetings, script writing, a rehearsal, the ceremony itself and a presentation copy of your script.

Please email patjay.kent@gmail.com for more information,  leave a message on 01892 522844, or text 07967 327437.

Testimonials

‘A huge THANK YOU for all you did for us. We thoroughly enjoyed the whole process – it made us laugh (a lot!) and cry. It was the wedding we both wanted and we had a fantastic day.’

‘We wanted to say thank you for helping to make the wedding day so very special. The whole day and, I think, particularly the ceremony felt like a very special gift. The words, music and songs will all be part of very treasured memories for us both. Can I just add your nerve-calming words to me as we took a little pre-wedding walk were perfectly timed! Our friends and family were so moved by the ceremony, it was a wonderful platform for the celebrations and party that followed…’

‘Thank you Pat for your inspiration and sensitivity in creating the most beautiful ceremony for us. It was the happiest day of our lives and we could not have done it without you!’ and ‘We’re immensely thankful for your wisdom and kindness on the day.’

‘We would both like to thank you for guiding us all through such a memorable event. We both thought the whole celebration was delightful, charming, and above all, very meaningful and personal. Most importantly, the bride and groom say they had a perfect and memorable day. Thank you.’

‘Thank you for making our wedding day so special. The ceremony was wonderful, beyond our wildest imaginings and we will treasure it as such a unique memory forever. We hope we’ll be able to get in touch in due course for more Humanist events – naming ceremonies etc!’