Funerals and Memorials

Stephanie ForsterHumanist funerals are a celebration of life, and I create personal funeral services to remember the special moments in the life of your loved one just the way that you want it.

We can celebrate the fun times you shared, their relationships with family and friends, their personality with all their unique likes and dislikes, and all those other important things that made your loved who they were.

Whether you choose a service that is filled with songs, fun anecdotes and readings, or quiet reflection and poems, I will work with you to create a special memory for your farewell.

Creating the funeral service

As a non-religious celebration of life, your loved one’s funeral or memorial service can be made up of any words, songs and poems or readings you choose. And it can take place in a crematorium like Randalls Park in Leatherhead, a natural burial ground such as Clandon Wood, one of the many local cemeteries such as beautiful Brookwood or anywhere else you choose.

If you have an idea of what you would like included in the service, I will design the ceremony around this or, I am happy to make suggestions to suit your family and your loved one.

Here is an example outline for a service which would last around 20-30 minutes, which is the time allocated for services by most crematoria:

  • Welcome and introductory words about your loved one
  • Thoughts on life and death and remembering the person who has died
  • Poem or reading by a family member or friend
  • Tribute to your loved one describing their life, character and passions
  • Quiet reflection for personal goodbyes accompanied by music
  • Poem or reading by a family member or friend
  • Saying your farewell with the Committal
  • Closing words

Humanist funerals and memorials

Kind words from a few of my families

“We chose Stephanie to be our celebrant for the funeral of my father. From our first contact with her she was kind, compassionate and brought a sense of comfort to the difficult task of arranging such a sad occasion. She delivered a heartfelt eulogy for my dad, really getting a true sense of him. Everyone who attended said what a beautiful service it was.”
The Tyrrell Family, October 2023

“Dear Stephanie, thank you for being so kind and thoughtful. You made mum’s funeral so warm, loving and special.”
A Viney, July 2023

“Thank you so much for giving dad the send off he deserved. Your delivery was wonderful and the music, poems and photos were perfect; so many people commented on how lovely the service was. We couldn’t have planned anything better.”
The Allott Family, November 2022

“Thank you, Stephanie, for the beautiful, warm and compassionate service to celebrate my mother’s life. Coming from Zimbabwe, family and friends sadly all live overseas. Everyone was able to watch via the livestream and all have said what a positive and warm service it was, that you captured the spirit of our mum so well that it felt like they were all in the room. Thank you for making it such a beautiful farewell.” 
Angela Halsted, April 2022

“Dear Stephanie we all want to say a heart felt thank you for helping us produce a most beautiful and uplifting service. Listening to you speak, helped me to stay calm and have the confidence to speak too. So many people have said that it was the most beautiful service they have ever attended.”
Surrey family, October 2021

“Stephanie, thank you so much for the amazing job you did in hosting our mum’s uplifting service. So many people commented on how brilliant you were. We were so glad to have you lead it. It was perfect!!”
The Bolton Family, April 2021

“Stephanie, I want to let you know that I thought the service was lovely and you were marvellous.  It was wonderful to hear your words about my Dad. Thank you so much for making it a farewell to remember.”
Sue Brown, January 2021

“Thank you very much for all your hard work and commitment to Dad’s funeral. It was exactly what we wanted, and what he would have wanted. Everyone had so many positive comments afterwards.”
Andrew Spreadborough, November 2020

“I would like to thank you so very much for taking Dave’s funeral service on Monday. Not only was it professionally done it had feeling and truly reflected how I felt about him. The service was exactly how I wanted it and was worded so well. Many, many thanks for your help I think he will sleep well now.”
Andy Allen, March 2020

“Thank you Stephanie for Brian’s funeral yesterday. The service was delivered with extreme professionalism whilst remaining personal with tact. The family is extremely grateful and couldn’t have wished for a better person to deliver it. Thank you so much.”
Swift family, February 2020 

“Thank you for your help in preparing for mum’s funeral. We appreciated the sensitive and professional way in which you presented the service. Although a sad occasion, it went as well as it could have done and you made a significant contribution.”
Sharp family, December 2019

“Thank you for all your work leading up to, and during, our Mum’s memorial service. We were very pleased with how it went, and feel that our Mum would have approved. Other guests also gave very positive feedback – one of my nieces said it was the best funeral she had ever attended. You were also easy to deal with, organised and timely. Overall, I don’t think it could have gone any better.”
Slater family, August 2019

Getting in touch

Please contact me on the number below for an initial chat and then we can arrange to meet up to talk about your loved one and the sort of service you would like for them. Alternatively you can ask your funeral director to make the initial contact with me.

Tel: 07786 268446