Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding!
I will work with you to create a ceremony that suits you, your guests and your venue. Whether you are planning an intimate ceremony with just the two of you, a small gathering of close family and friends, or a big wedding with 300 guests – together we can design your perfect celebration.
Creating your own wedding ceremony
This is where the fun starts! We can plan your wedding ceremony together to include any elements you choose such as poems, songs, vows, ring exchanges or a hand fasting ceremony. If you have an idea of what you would like, I will design your ceremony around this or, I am happy to make suggestions to suit your personality as a couple. If you would prefer a more traditional style wedding ceremony that is absolutely fine too.
Below is an example of the sort of ceremony people often choose which would last around 30 minutes:
- Wedding party enters ceremony area to music of your choice
- Introductory words about marriage
- Readings or poems selected by you or a friend or relative
- Your love story, which I will create with you
- Hand blessing, a lovely lead into the heart of the ceremony
- Exchange of vows, which I can write with you
- Symbolic ring exchange
- Declaration of your marriage, and call for guests to support you
- Poem or song selected by you or a friend or relative
- Signing of your marriage certificate, accompanied by music of your choice
- Closing words
- Wedding party leaves ceremony area to music of your choice followed by guests
And if you would like to add some magical touches to your ceremony we can add a symbolic gesture such as a hand fasting, ring warming or even a ceremonial fire!
Kind words from a few of my happy couples“Stephanie was the most wonderful celebrant for our intimate, personal and celebratory wedding. On the day Stephanie led the most beautiful ceremony and many of our guests told me they shed a tear at how wonderful the ceremony was. It was completely perfect and completely US! Thankyou Stephanie for being part of our most special day.” Laura & Will, August 2023, High Billinghurst Farm
“Stephanie provided a fantastic ceremony for our wedding. Right from the start of the process, she made sure she understood what kind of ceremony we wanted and kept in touch with us throughout. She did an amazing job of writing a heartfelt story about our journey together that formed part of the ceremony. We highly recommend her!” Lauren & Rob, June 2023, The Three Horsehoes Thursley
“We would highly recommend Stephanie, all of our guests commented on how well she set the tone for the day and how the ceremony was so fitting to us. It was a pleasure sharing our story with her and having her as such a huge part of our special day, thank you Stephanie!” Franc & Jack, September 2022, Victory Hall, Balcombe
“We had a wonderful experience. Stephanie was very personable and knowledgeable about humanist weddings which helped us develop ideas together for our ceremony. This included getting different members of our family involved which was very important to us. Our mums helped us literally ‘tie the knot’ with ribbons which was a bit of fun and made a colourful display. So many of our friends have commented on how special the ceremony was and especially on Stephanie’s involvement in making it so unforgettable.” Tess & Jezz, RHS Wisley July 2021
“Stephanie was so helpful in the planning of our ceremony, together we created a ceremony that was really personal to us but still followed a familiar structure. She was brilliant on the day and made us feel totally at ease. We got so many compliments on the ceremony thank you Stephanie!” Emily & James, The Bingham July 2021
“Stephanie performed our wedding ceremony in August 2020 in our neighbours back garden, as we were coming out of lockdown, and was simply amazing. Not just on the day but throughout the process especially as we could only talk via video as opposed to in person. However Stephanie managed to create a wedding script that captured our personalities perfectly. We cannot recommend Stephanie highly enough, it’s a shame the star rating doesn’t go higher than 5.” Dee & Matt, Staines August 2020
“It was a magical ceremony which brought a tear to everyone’s eye and so many of our guests commented on how personal it was – exactly what we’d wanted to achieve. We couldn’t recommend Stephanie more as a wedding celebrant – thank you for helping to make our day so special.” Sarah & Andy, Dorking January 2020
“Many thanks for such a touching and personal ceremony. I know that all of my friends loved the fact that they were part of it, and have even mentioned that they would do a similar ceremony now that they have seen first-hand a celebrant hand-fasting. The whole day was magical, and this was the icing on the cake.” Shelley & Emma, The Joker Brighton October 2019
“We were both in agreement that we wished to have a non-religious service for our wedding. When we met Stephanie we had no doubt that she was the perfect celebrant to lead our Humanist wedding. She was professional, well-spoken, sincere and made us both feel incredibly at ease. We had countless compliments from our guests, praising Stephanie on her unique and personal ceremony. We can’t thank her enough for making our day everything that we wished for and more.” Anita & James, Park View Farm August 2019
“The ceremony went perfectly and I think you were the highlight of everyone’s day and also wedding history for most of them! Everyone was so complementary of you and Tom and I couldn’t have asked for anything else. I think one of the nicest things ones of Tom’s friends said was that you made him understand what marriage was about.” Tess & Tom, Tom’s Kitchen Chelsea August 2019
“We loved our day and are so thankful for your part in it. So many of our guests commented on how fun and relaxed the ceremony was, and the ring warming was hugely popular with everyone! The handfasting was such a lovely way to get the girls involved, and again we have had many comments on this too. Thank you for your support on the run up to it as well, it was lovely getting to know you during the process.” Danae & Nick, Henfield July 2019
“On our first meeting with Stephanie, we immediately felt at ease and completely confident that she would be able to craft and lead our humanist ceremony. Beginning with us, she helped us establish what was important to us as a couple by asking questions we hadn’t thought to ask ourselves. Those Saturday mornings spent with Stephanie were a lovely moment to indulge in our history, reflect on our relationship and look forward to our future together as husband and wife.” Laura & Sam, Newdigate May 2019
“Stephanie incorporated beautifully and comprehensively the Bulgarian traditions that we chose to share with our guests… She made everyone feel involved and engaged with the ceremony, and we received compliments from many of our guests.” Miglena & Michael, Petersham Nursery August 2018
“You managed to capture the essence of our relationship and our journey in just a few conversations… I was particularly impressed that our coffee meeting translated so faithfully into the story which you eventually used in the ceremony.” Karen & Andy, The Bingham July 2018
The joy of a humanist wedding celebration is that you can get married anywhere you choose, as long as you have permission from the land owner. Lots of people select a licenced venue such as a local hotel but you are not limited to these so how about a wedding outdoors at the gorgeous Painshill Park in Cobham or your favourite spot on the South Downs?
I mainly conduct ceremonies in Surrey, Sussex, Hampshire, Berkshire and London but I’m happy to travel anywhere. So if you are thinking of getting married in Dartmoor, the Dales or somewhere further afield such as a vineyard in the Dordogne I’d love to help!
If you would like to find out more about humanist weddings or to discuss your plans and ideas with someone who loves to talk weddings then do get in touch!