Funerals and Memorials

IMPORTANT INFORMATION DURING THE CORONAVIRUS CRISIS

In these changing times, advice about how a cremation or funeral will take place is best gained directly from your Funeral Director.  You can expect there will be restrictions for gatherings. Though the circumstances are changing profoundly around us at this time, the raw materials of our humanity remain the same.  If I can help you in this time, please do get in touch.

There are three steps you need to take when someone dies.

  1. Get a medical certificate from the hospital or visiting doctor
  2. Register the death – at local Register Office (do it within 5 days)
  3. Arrange the Funeral

Further details can be found here https://www.gov.uk/after-a-death

You can begin to arrange a funeral by calling a Funeral Director.  They  will answer all your questions from caskets, to flowers, to cars.   If you’ve arrived at this page because the first thing you want to do is ensure you have a celebrant and you want advice about local funeral directors, please call and I will be pleased to make recommendations.  The Funeral director will also book a slot at the crematorium or cemetery or natural burial ground.  They will take charge of all practical details regarding the funeral.

My role is to help you develop the ceremony you want and to deliver it for you or with you.  To that end, I will come and visit you and your family at your time of loss and to help you to find the story you want to remember your loved one by.  This is achieved by sensitive listening to the stories you have about them: what was this person like? How would you define their character and characteristics? What made them laugh and cry? How did they live, love and work?

Developing the ceremony is a  collaborative process where I take the responsibility for crafting the ceremony but where your thoughts, your memories, your words are drawn together. Your choice of music, poetry and readings is also important and it is my role to reassure you that whatever you want the ceremony to be like, we can work towards making that happen.  I can take responsibility for the full delivery of the ceremony or I can also act as a guide and steer for you and your loved ones to deliver your own tributes.

Thank you for the copy of the ceremony to keep, Kate, and for everything else you’ve done for us this last three weeks. You made Ruby’s funeral a wonderful, celebratory occasion.  I can’t imagine anyone better to do this for us and for Ruby.  We have had so many people telling us what a beautiful and moving ceremony it was.  I am so grateful to you for this.  I won’t ever forget what you have done for my family. (August, 2020)

Mum, Ray and I would just like to say a huge thank you for the service yesterday. We loved the way you conducted it and it brought us huge comfort. Although it was a very sad occasion for us we wanted it to be uplifting and positive . There were tears but also I could hear laughter and we all left with happy memories. Thank you again . (July 2020)

I just wanted to say a BIG thank you to you both for all your help in giving our dad a fantastic send off yesterday.  He would have loved it and called it “absolutely brilliant” (a phase he often used!).  Thank you for your professionalism, your sympathetic manner to the way he was as a person and for making Beka and I feel like we were in good hands. (February 2019)

” I want to thank you for a really lovely celebration of Linda’s life on Friday.  You were wonderfully calm throughout and showed great sensitivity and perception. There was a gentleness in your delivery which was very comforting and dignified.” (September 2018)

“Thank you so much for conducting such a beautiful service yesterday.  It was a wonderful celebration of Chris’ life and such a fitting way for all of our family and friends to say farewell to him.  The Natural Burial Ground at the Sustainability Centre is a very special, tranquil and beautiful place and you made the whole service and the committal dignified yet extremely touching.  Heartfelt thanks from us all” G, P, P, T and C. (September, 2016)

You may wish to look more at my route to being a celebrant here: https://themuttonclub.com/humanist-celebrant-funeral/