Weddings and partnerships

Choosing a Humanist Wedding Celebration: A humanist celebration of a wedding/partnership is tailor-made to suit you. The choices are yours: the venue, the music, the readings.  You can write your own vows.  You can exchange rings, light candles, plant trees, jump over brooms or bind your hands together in an ancient ritual!  The only thing that I cannot do is the legal side – the law in England states that you still need to have a register office ceremony. Humanists UK is working on this and there could be a change, but at this stage, it’s best to calculate on the basis that you will need a legal ceremony separate to this ceremony.

Who doesn’t love a love story?

At the heart of every wedding ceremony is a great celebration of your love! The role I play in your day begins at the moment of booking where you can share your initial ideas.  Later in the process I will meet you and come to know all about your decisions to marry, and capture all that matters to you in a unique ceremony written just for you!   At that stage I am open to any ideas, happy to honour wishes for the inclusion of traditional aspects of a ceremony such as vows, and ring exchanges, but equally I am happy to help to guide you to create your own tradition, a ritual only about you two!





Dear Kate, A massive thank you for being part of our wedding day! We’ve had many lovely comments about the ceremony and the day itself, how it was so relaxed and had nothing but happy vibes all day. Everywhere we looked people were chatting and smiling. (Carly and Olly Melcio, August 2019 – Five Oaks Events, Tipi Wedding Venue near Horsham, West Sussex)

Dear Kate, This is a rather tardy thank you for giving us the best wedding ceremony in the land. We thought you were amazing – as did all of our guests.  You made it such a special day for us – the perfect mix of ceremonial formality with a truly personal touch.  I have never seen so many of our friends and family in tears, which I think is a good sign…We will always remember what an important role you played on our special day.  Lucy & Derek (September 2018) 

Dear Kate ..Thank you so much for yesterday.  You really were incredible – so many people  commented on your extraordinary talent for writing and delivering the ceremony with an uncanny combination of poise, humour and sentimentality. “ We are so grateful! Sending you lots of love and hugs! Hattie & Karen, (July 2017)

 Hi Kate, I have been meaning to contact you to thank you for a fantastic ceremony. It all went better than we hoped and was truly one of the happiest days of our lives. Our friends are still talking about it.  Thank you so much (Sarah and Barry, July 2018)

Thank you so much for conducting our wedding ceremony.  It was more perfect that we ever could have hoped for.  Thank you for your relaxed approach, for all of your ideas and your guidance.  We are so glad we chose you as our celebrant” (Emma & Sam, August 2017) 

Writing and Presenting the Ceremony

My role as celebrant is to help you in creating the ceremony you want. I will take full responsibility for the delivery, for managing any additional speakers on the day, and for checking the rings are in the right place! Your role is to help me find the story you want to share. This should reflect your personalities – whether it is light-hearted and humorous, or more serious. I share the drafts of the ceremony with you and it is perfectly acceptable for the ceremony to undergo a number of drafts as your ideas change across the preparation time. You have an important role in shaping the ceremony, whilst my role is making sure it is brought to life on the day.

Dear Kate, ..thank you for everything you did to give us such a beautiful and special wedding ceremony – (and I’ve been re-reading the print out to keep living the moments! – thank you ).  It was exactly perfect for us, and our wedding day.”  With much love Katie and Dan (May 2016)          

 “The ceremony was amazing and so many people complimented your style and the tone it created as being perfect for us … thank you for the Dutch, thank you for keeping us on track and not being fazed by the somewhat manic nature of things on the Friday (&maybe the Saturday too!)  ….it’s sad that having shared this with you we might never see you again but we’ll never forget you.” (Rach and Mein, Utrecht, 2015)

 Fees are available on request.   It may be necessary to charge travelling expenses if the wedding is beyond 10 miles from my home address. These are added at 45 pence per mile to the final bill.  The fee includes:

  • an initial no-obligation phonecall or meeting to discuss your preliminary ideas
  • a full planning meeting to begin to hear your wishes and how the ceremony might come together
  • the preparation of a tailor-made script for your ceremony which is written to include all of your ideas and open to as many changes, additions you wish to make
  • a rehearsal at the venue,
  • my services on the day
  • a presentation copy of the script to keep

I invite you to look at my testimonials page and see how couples found the experience themselves!

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