For couples who are not religious a church wedding can feel completely inappropriate, while civil wedding ceremonies often lack the personal element which is a crucial part of a meaningful celebration of a couple’s commitment to one another.
A Humanist wedding or partnership ceremony provides a couple with a totally personal, made-to-measure way of celebrating their commitment to one another.
Humanist ceremonies do not have legal status in England and Wales. Most couples have a simple register office wedding prior to their Humanist ceremony to deal with the legal side of things.
This leaves them free to create a personal wedding ceremony to which they invite their families and friends to share in the celebration of their love for one another. Their Humanist ceremony can be held anywhere – indoors or out – and has no restriction on its content.
The normal procedure is as follows. I would meet with you to discuss your requirements. I would then write a draft script of the entire ceremony which I would email to you. This draft could then be worked on until you are totally happy with it. I would then deliver the ceremony on the day and give you a copy of the script and a certificate in a folder for you to keep.
As each ceremony is personally written for the specific couple there is no set framework. It would normally include words of welcome to the guests, recognition of both partners’ families if appropriate, some general thoughts on love, relationships and marriage, something of the story of you as a couple, your hopes for the future etc, as well as vows, exchange of rings. There is scope for readings, music, participation by family/friends.
I can advise on any aspect of the ceremony and can provide you with a CD containing suitable readings as Word documents. I normally encourage couples to write their own vows; I can provide samples to stimulate the brain if necessary!
I conduct weddings on continental Europe and am happy to speak in French, German, Spanish or Italian, as required. (I spend part of the year in Spain and can meet couples there if that is more convenient).
If you would like any further information or would like to arrange a meeting without obligation, please feel free to phone or email.