We have all been to funerals which did not seem to be about the person who has died. Sometimes I have come away afterwards and felt upset, not just because of the death of the person – but because the service did not in any way reflect a sense of that person’s life and personality.

 A non-religious humanist funeral ceremony conducted by me will be about the person who has died, and for those who are left behind. No ceremonies are the same, because everyone is different. It can be a celebration of the life of the person, the connections they made, and the memories they have left behind.  Words and music are carefully chosen to suit the character and experience of that person. Music for funerals may range from Puccini to Monty Python’s ‘Always Look on the Bright Side of Life’, and humour, when appropriate, is often present in a ceremony.

 This is an example of how a funeral ceremony might be organised.  But it is up to you – you may not want any of these elements, and you may want to include other aspects not mentioned here.

Words of welcome

Thoughts on life and death from 
a non-religious perspective

The tribute – an outline of the life and personality of the person

Possible contributions from family, friends and colleagues

Readings of poetry and prose

A time for quiet reflection (with some favourite music?)

The Committal or words of farewell

Brief closing words – including thanks on your behalf and any announcements

Exit music

How does it happen?

I will visit you at home in order to plan the funeral ceremony with you so that you can feel confident that the occasion will be just right. Other family members may be present as well. I will ask you about the life and personality of the person who has died and about any favourite music, poetry, and interests so that I can write a tribute that honours and does justice to the person’s life. I can help you with the choice of music and readings. This visit may take between one and three hours.

 If family members or friends would like to take part in the ceremony this can make it both personal and moving. However, if you feel worried about speaking in public or about becoming emotional, then I can read a tribute which you have written.

 I will stay in contact with you, and with the funeral director, throughout the period from our first telephone call to the end of the funeral service. You are welcome to call me or email me, whenever you like.

 On the day the funeral will be dignified and respectful, and I will conduct the ceremony in a warm, sensitive and professional manner.

 Afterwards I will provide you with a copy of the words of the ceremony in a Humanists UK folder.

 I work in the areas of Chorley, Leyland, Preston and Blackburn in Lancashire.

    Below is a short film about funerals conducted by Humanists UK celebrants