Funeral testimonials

These comments come from some of the cards, notes and emails I have received from families, following the funeral or memorial ceremony for their loved one…

David, on behalf of all my family, may I thank you so much for the wonderful, caring and professional way you guided us through the preparation and execution of Julia’s Day. You emanated a feeling of calm and strength, that enabled me to deliver my poem and make sure I could fully take in the memory of the day. Thank you. Mark Higman

Thank you for being the celebrant for my mother’s funeral at Harbour View. Several people came up to me afterwards and said that it was the most moving and caring ceremony they had ever attended. One chap even said it had convinced him that this was the type of ceremony he hoped for himself, and had immediately shared that thought with his wife. Both Jane and I wanted to say thank you. We really valued talking with you at the planning stage and during the funeral itself. Your words were well chosen and spot-on for the type of ‘send-off’ we envisaged. While marking someone’s departure from life is always sad for those left behind I think, between us all, we managed to capture the love and laughter that was a big part of mum’s life. Best wishes for the future.  Shaun Dunphy

Many thanks for how you did the ceremony last Saturday at Test Valley Crematorium. I didn’t get the chance to say properly at the time, but we are very grateful for how dignified and appropriate the service was, and how true to Helen’s beliefs and character. You did it perfectly. A number of people came up to us in the afternoon to say how much they liked the way you did it. Toby Tyrrell

A quick note to thank you for the lovely way you conducted Mum’s funeral.  I think we gave her a fine send off and everyone spoke well and captured the essence of her character. Martin Salter

A week has gone since my Dad’s funeral. Just wanted to say how well you did your job… from talking to all of us lot, putting it together, communicating it all and then presenting it all so eloquently. At the wake, family and friends came up and said what a good send off.  Best wishes, Linda & David

Just wanted to pop you a note to say thank you so much for leading our celebration of my mum’s life yesterday, at Harbour View. You captured her life perfectly and set the perfect tone for what we wanted for the ceremony. Everyone went away with great memories of my mum (and a few things they didn’t know about her too, I think) and so many people came up to me and commented on how well you’d lead the ceremony. It is a great skill you have there so thanks for doing that for us, it was great. All the best and many thanks. Sarah Johnson 

Thank you very much for the wonderful ceremony for my father on Wednesday. It was conducted in a professional and sensitive manner, and the family were all very pleased and felt you captured the essence of him so well. Always a difficult time but we felt at peace following the ceremony. Ann Crathorn

A very sincere “Thank You” for the way you conducted Mum’s funeral on Monday. The service was so beautiful and the memory of how the day went will be comfort to us all as we move forwards with our lives. It was indeed a service of celebration and thanksgiving, due in no small part to the time and consideration you had put into its preparation and delivery. Everyone who was there has said how well it went – someone even said they enjoyed the service, which is not a comment usually associated with funerals! You even managed to put in some of the little details we had spoken about when we met the week before, and which I had completely forgotten we had mentioned. Thank you so much for your help and guidance and all you did on the day. All this attention to detail and the sympathetic yet uplifting way in which you led the service put us at ease and enabled us to relax at what could have been a very tense and uncomfortable time. From all the family and friends of Mum, again a very sincere and genuine “Thank you”. The Milnes family, Milford on Sea

Many thanks for your help in making Roy’s funeral a ceremony to remember. I haven’t been to a funeral with standing room only – we counted 102 people. Everyone thought your presentation was brilliant. I am glad when Shirley and I gave the thumbs up; we certainly made the right choice. Thanks once again.  Ursula Galway   

Thank you for making Mum’s day very special.  Sally & family

Dear David, I would like to thank you for the wonderful ceremony for my brother Raymond Rowe. A sad day, but made much easier for everyone with your kind words.  Thank you once more.  Rose Dibden

 I just wanted to drop a quick note to thank you for your wonderful skills in leading the celebration of my Dad’s life yesterday at Southampton crematorium. My daughter’s remark later the same day truly encapsulated the way we felt. Her words were “That is how I want my own funeral to be, I will definitely have a Humanist (celebrant) too.” I have no doubt that you are aware that you made a huge difference to the day for us, the celebration was both beautiful and dignified.  You managed to capture the essence of a man who you had never met.  I know that Dad would have been grinning from ear to ear knowing that he sang at his own funeral. Once again thank you so much for doing such a magnificent job.  Sue Tunnacliffe

I know we said thanks yesterday, but just wanted to say again, on behalf of both Mum and ourselves, a big thank you for the way you conducted Eric’s funeral and the words spoken. It was exactly what we wanted, and many commented on what a nice tribute it was to him.  Wendy & Andy Upton

I am a regular church-goer, but that was one of the most moving funerals I’ve ever been to.  Mourner on the flower terrace afterwards…

Just a quick note to say thank you so much for the ceremony you gave my mum Wink Janes. Your lovely words and manner made the funeral a wonderful memory. We have had many comments from friends that it was ‘the best’ service they had ever been to.  Sophie Easton

Thank you so much for the moving tribute you gave about Dad today. All the family said how lovely it was to hear stories of Dad’s life which you delivered with true empathy.  Viv, Lin & family

In all the ceremonies I’ve seen here, that was the best.  Comments from a bearer at Hinton Park Natural Burial Ground

Just a short note to say a huge thank you the tribute you both prepared and delivered today at Ces’s funeral. The feedback and positive comments we received were extremely complimentary. Your expertise and delivery were exceptional, as was the consideration you gave to the content. Please accept our heartfelt thanks for making a very sad occasion a celebration of Ces’s life; you perfectly encapsulated his personality.  Margret, Fiona, Paul, Heather, Ralph, Darci & James

I would like to say a heartfelt thank you for your inspiring celebration of Dad’s life at his funeral. A very close friend of mine who attended the funeral remarked that although she had never met my father, she went away feeling that she knew him. I would not have changed a thing and it left me feeling proud of my father and immensely grateful to you David for taking so much care and consideration.  Kate Dyson-McIlroy

Dear David, now that things have calmed a little, I wanted to write a thank-you to let you know how much your service for Tony touched  us all. Everyone, without fail, said what a wonderful, beautiful, lovely (or whatever adjective they used) service it was. It was so personal for Tony and we all remembered him in so many ways.  Thank you so much.  Andrea Tizard 

David, thank you so much for conducting Dad’s ceremony yesterday. You captured our memories of him perfectly and several people at the wake commented that it was the best funeral they had ever been to and that they would like something similar for themselves!  Paula Davis

Dear David, on behalf of my myself, my brother, and father, I just wanted to say a big thank you for conducting such a nice service on Friday and for all your kind support throughout this difficult time. Your writing of, and patience with, the script and your kind and warm presentation of those words were very much appreciated. All the family commented on the wonderful way you captured the life of this much loved mother, wife and grandma. Thank you so much.  Andy Campbell

I can’t thank you enough for leading the lovely ceremony where we all remembered Robin’s extraordinary life. You helped us through the disturbing experience that was [so suddenly and unexpectedly] losing a beloved brother, father, husband, friend and colleague. All the family and friends remarked on how sensitive you were and how much understanding of Robin you had despite having only met Pat and me once. Robin would have been very touched and extremely satisfied by the ceremony; so once again, thank you so very much.  Heather & family

Dear David,  you really deserve a very big thank you for the beautiful way in which you conducted Dad’s ceremony yesterday at Hinton Park Woodland Burial Ground.  It proved to be a very good balance of poignant and cheerful elements – and as a family we could not have been happier with the way it all went.  There was continuous, positive feed-back from all the folk who attended, and that only goes to prove that you did a fabulous job on our behalf. Thanks for giving us all such a memorable day for Dad.  Peter Greenhalgh

I wanted to say thank you for such a wonderful ceremony you conducted for Mike. So many people have spoken to me and said that they were pleased with the Humanist approach. To hear the music played so loud was a spine-tingling experience and the first sing-along funeral they had ever attended. On Friday, Sharlene brought Mike’s ashes home in style. He was driven in a Mercedes sports car, with the roof down and the Vangelis track blaring out. Mike would have loved that. Brilliant! Thank you so much for your efforts in turning a very traumatic day into one of wonderful and loving memories of Mike, which will stay in our hearts forever.  Pam Harding

Brilliant! That seemed to be the general consensus of the way you dealt with the celebration of Lilian’s life yesterday at Hinton Park Woodland Burial Ground. We were all very impressed and very moved by the occasion in that wonderful setting. Many thanks also for the beautiful printed record of the ceremony which in itself is a work of art that I shall treasure. Best wishes for the future and thanks again for your help at our traumatic time.  Francis McKeown